Sometimes it takes a while to see the never ending culture of LGBTQ+ discrimination. Yesterday I had dinner at La Hulpe with two good friends who are connected to Belgian royals. They are a same-sex couple who’ve been together for 30 years. As it happened, I read this article before leaving to meet them to chat and watch movies for the evening. Interestingly, over the years, I’ve had more than a few close friends in the LGBTQ community. It goes all the way to Africa when I lived in Sierra Leone, the Gambia and Senegal. One of my most loyal friends in Latrikunda (The Gambia) was gay (or at least everyone thought so). I have gay friends in Jersey, Philly, Toronto, and I have a few in Berlin and Brussels. If I am not mistaken, I could forgetting a few places.
It was then that I began to wonder if that was why the LGBTQ+ community appreciates Lil Nas X so much? For them, it must be exciting…”
In fact, a very charismatic fellow owns one of my favorite Jamaican restaurants in Kreuzberg (Berlin). He and all his staff are gay. The restaurant is well known in the area since it’s the only Caribbean eatery there. In Jersey, one of my close friends was a lesbian. She often asked me to accompany her to the only gay nightclub in Franklin. Some of the coolest bar nightclubs in Brussels are gay clubs. As I was sitting with my friends in La Hulpe watching a movie, a thought occurred to me. Even though they are gay, they must experience every aspect of society from a heterosexual perspective. It was then that I began to wonder if that was why the LGBTQ+ community appreciates Lil Nas X so much? For them, it must be exciting that someone represents them in a public sphere.
I hadn’t thought of that. I felt regretful because I’ve had good friends in the LGBTQ+ community since the 1990s. That thought hadn’t even cross my mind. Is that like Caucasians and racism? To not understand racial discrimination, financial disqualification, police brutality, or racial profiling? I thought wow! Perhaps this is what feminists experience when they express how men dominate every aspect of the world. I had to research that. Gay men, colored men, and straight men are all men, and yet we have so much to say and do when it comes to our race, religion, or sexual orientation. I watched a love scene that appeared in the movie and saw that the gays were perfectly okay to appreciate the movie even though it was in a heterosexual context.
Something to do with the experience of being black is reminiscent of what LGBTQ+ people go through.”
When a gay scene appeares on our TV screen, straight people have a frenzy. Gays have to live like this every day of their lives. Just as a black person has to live with discrimination. I saw discrimination as our common ground. It hit me like a ton of bricks. Like wow! Of course, I believe there should be a voice for heterosexual people. I don’t even think we should divide ourselves with the topic of sexuality. But as I read this article I felt one should appreciate the LGBTQ+ community educating us about what we’ve missed in their fight. This is crazy! Feminists believe that men enjoy male privilege, and blacks believe that Caucasians relish in white privilege. But I never thought heterosexuals also have privileges that gays can only dream of. Do I make sense?
Okay, as a black man, there was that asshole part that was such that at least I had some social privileges that others don’t. I was like, damn, if you are a straight white man, you are the king of the world! You’re a man, you’re straight and you’re a Caucasian. Boy oh boy! You’ve checked all the boxes. Could the world ever get to where everyone checks all the boxes? It’s wild how everything hinges on gender, race, and sexual orientation. Someone could murder a black man for wondering into the wrong place, but no one kills a heterosexual for being straight. The article made me see that. Something to do with the experience of being black is reminiscent of what LGBTQ+ people go through.
Of course, we cannot change our race but would we do that if it was possible? Some tribulations are more than others because we can travel without fear of being straight. As heterosexual men, we might be embarrassed over where we put our dicks while having a wife and ten chicks on the side, but in general, we could marry and remarry and then remarry without certain inconveniences. We have straight privilege. No one puts a heterosexual person in prison for being heterosexual. As for sin? Yes, most of us can say that we’ve been considered ravenous pagans more than once. But that’s not because we’re straight. So we cannot identify with gays who are often heckled as “sinners” for being gay. Do heterosexual people encounter “heterophobia” in the workplace?
In today’s world that might be possible. One thing is for sure, we may not see as many black people in the economic position we would like, but if it weren’t for heterosexual people in all popular cultures we would also be depressed. Gays endure this absense of positive representation all the time. Witticism aside, it broke my heart to learn that gays cannot donate blood and experience situations where they are denied medical treatment just because they’re homosexual. Man, when I read that article, I didn’t know what to make of it. Sometimes you have to look at a situation from a different perspective to understand it properly. Discrimination is a beast. Now, I’m a Christian and I understand my doctrine. In mordern times being hateful seems odd.*